It is quite common to fear death. After all, we are all going to die at some point - unless you’re immortal, of course!
Rather than fear death it’s perhaps more about not knowing when we will die and fearing the process of dying than death itself.
To fear death is good as it prevents us from taking reckless actions and promotes long life. It also helps us to look out for other’s safety and well-being too.
When making risk assessments of work processes the worst scenario is death. It is the end. There is no healing process, no comeback. It’s final! That’s why we really fear death. There is no second chance.
All other outcomes are not so final. There is a chance to improve, to get better, perhaps even to have another attempt at what caused our near death.
Many of us hold back from achieving our goals because of fear. Fear of all kinds of things; failure, people rejecting us, loosing face, lack of confidence that we are doing the right thing, etc.
However, no matter how long that list may go on the ‘fear of death’ will not feature! That’s right, the fear of death does not get listed as a reason to not achieve any of our business goals. We might feel that we would prefer to ‘die’ than do whatever we are being challenged to do, but in reality we’re only saying that. If it came to the crunch and we really only had two choices; we would choose life. The survival instincts would kick in!
So how do we stop underachieving and get on with reaching our goals and building successful businesses? There are two aspects to consider and act on.
1. Motivation - why do we want to achieve a particular goal? How important is the achievement to us? Is it a ‘life or death’ issue?
If the drive is not strong enough then when the slightest of set backs cause us to falter we will fail to pick ourselves up and carry on the journey to success. If the reason for carrying on is not in our heart then nothing will drive us. We will all to readily tell ourselves that ‘this isn’t working’ and go off to something else. This will become cyclical until we really, really want something.
We have all that we need to fulfil our dreams, it really is only us that holds us back.
2. Outcomes – what are the possible outcomes in trying to achieve our goals? What is the worst that could happen if we fail? What will we feel like having succeeded?
We need to get outcomes properly prioritised and if ‘fear death’ doesn’t feature then what is there to loose? That loss is likely to be superficial compared to death!
Brendon Burchard, in his book ‘The Millionaire Messenger’, says that there are three questions people ask of themselves when faced with death: Have I lived? Have I loved? Have a made a difference?
How would you answer these now? Are you happy with the answers?
You’re still living, so you have a chance to be able to change the answers to those questions to how you want to. You have the chance to do something about them. If you die in the process at least it will be acknowledged that you tried. Don’t fear death, live life!